No Justice for children in America (All)
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Date: 2008-05-02, 3:52PM EDT
If you have children who were or are the victims of incest, regardless of whether or not your case was resolved, contact me.
My children, like many others, are the victims of incest and the courts across America, I have found, are not trained in this area and are ignorantly endangering children by putting them back with the abuser.
Incest is not about divorce or child custody. It is about civil rights. Do the mothers and children have the right to be set free from their abusers and do they have the right to justice and safety under the constitution?
I am starting a grass roots effort to get the laws changed across the country. Attorneys and judges need to be trained in recognizing child sex abuse. GALs also need training in this area - especially since they are supposed to be representing the children. Counselors must be trained in this area, as well.
There has been enough research done over the past couple decades, that we can definitely state what constitutes child sex abuse and how it is damaging to the children and how the abuser/addict can be tested and treated successfully.
Legal Aides in each state must be expanded to help with these cases. And not just help minorities, either. Sex abuse knows no gender/social/financial/educational boundary.
Funding needs to be set aside to provide trained attorneys for the mothers and their children, as well as counselors & play therapists, depending upon the ages of the children involved.
We need to force this issue before our city, county, state and federal governments. All civil rights issues started with the people at the bottom. Civil rights started when the first Pilgrim left the shores of England; expanded with the formation of the United States; expanded again with the Emancipation Proclamation; expanded again with Women's Rights and expanded again with the Civil Rights Movement of the 1960's. It is time for Civil Rights to expand again.
Most of us never expected to have something like this happen to our children. More times than not, it is during the divorce that these issues come up, because for the first time, the children feel safe. Beforehand, they are usually threatened not to say anything and so they stay silent and suffer.
Very rarely, does the mother have the money to hire the best attorney for the job. The average attorney charges $200 per hour and they charge for every phone call, every email, every letter and especially every trip to and from the courthouse. A $2000 retainer is gone in 30 days. In 90 days, your bill can easily total $5000 or more. Who has that kind of money?!
Child Sex abuse affects everyone everywhere. Over 75% of the time, the child knows and trusts the abuser. 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 5 boys are being sexually abused right now. Many times, the mother is pressured and forced into either staying silent or simply ignored. If the case makes it to court, the good ole' boys network ensures the abuser gets favored in the hearings. The mother is threatened to comply or they tell her the judge will award full custody to the abuser and the mother will only get supervised visitation. This is sick and should not be so.
Mothers and children need to know what to do and where to go when child sex abuse happens. They need a safe place and lots of support. Long term support, as these cases drag on. They will need a paper trail and expert witnesses and trained counselors to ensure the judge knows exactly what has happened.
The legal system needs to be examined and cases reviewed by impartial parties, to show where bribery and favoritism have compromised the safety of the very children they are claiming to be so interested in protecting. Remove judges from their seats and dis-bar attorneys. Replace them only with full trained and certified attorneys and judges.
Do the same for counselors. The good ole' boy network has their paid "counselors" who will say whatever the boss man tells them, regardless of whether or not it is true or ethical. Each court needs a list of full-trained, certified counselors and therapists, which the mother can choose from to get help and documentation.
Here's a few ways to tell if the judge and/or attorneys are being bribed: Does the GAL not follow your state's Supreme Court guidelines for being a GAL? When you try to remove a GAL that is not following the guidelines, does the judge refuse to appoint a new one? Does the judge award unsupervised visitation or allow supervisors to remain who have already compromised the children's welfare? Does the GAL or even your attorney force you to use one specific counselor and not allow you to choose from a general list of trained counselors? When you ask to use a counselor trained in sex abuse or addiction or try to show documentation that proves what you are saying is true, do they dismiss you by saying something like: “Well, psychology is not a concrete field and you can’t really know what happened and you can’t really know whether or not someone is an addict. After all, what you say is addictive, may be okay to someone else. You don’t really know that something happened to your kids.” But in the very next breath, they force you to go to their counselor, who without training or certifications, is able to make a determination that, of course, you are wrong or “over-controlling” and that nothing happened to your children. When asked how they make that determination, are you told that this counselor uses their “intuitions” and “good vibes/feelings” to make their decisions? Do the GALs, attorneys and counselors refuse to provide you with their training and certifications? When the court memos are written up, do they ask you to sign first and then go into another room, supposedly to get your ex's signatures and the judge's signature and you find that they added to the memo - things you would never have agreed to and then gave you a copy of THAT memo? Does the judge refuse to take the bench, instead holding his/her meetings in the chambers without you being represented?
Be sure to take witnesses with you to every hearing and every conversation between you and the GAL and the judge. Make sure your witnesses are credible, upstanding citizens, who are able to sit in on the courtroom hearings and listen while the GAL talks to you about your children. Request everything be put in writing. Do NOT sign any court papers first. Have the other side sign first.
All of this has happened to me. It is real in America. Justice is given to the highest bidder. We must turn the tide and force impartiality and ethics back into our courts. Our children are suffering for a lack of justice in America.
All those of you who have had or are facing similar situations and want justice, email me. Activism is the American way. Together, we CAN and WILL make a difference. Our country would not even exist if a group of people stood up against big government and decided to do something to save their children and future generations.
Those of you who are sickened by the horrible treatment of children in our courts, who are no more than pawns in a political game, contact your local, state and federal officials and let them know that you are outraged by their abuse of children. Demand that children get a voice in court. Demand that laws be changed to protect children from incestual fathers.
If a child molester is a stranger, we put them in jail or at the very least, order them to stay away from all minors. Why do we not do the same when the molester is a parent? Molestation is molestation and most molesters start their "career" on a child they know.
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